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Friday, April 12, 2013

Being at the right place at the right time...

Happy Friday, peeps!!  I am in the office till noon today, Liv is still sick.  I tell you what this flu sucks ass!!  Just when you think you are out of the woods, BOOM, the fever is back and higher than ever!!  So much for the $75 Tamiflu!  Oh well, you do what you have to, to get your babies healthy.  As I sit here and type, the mommy guilt takes over.  Seeing her look at me this morning, with those big, brown eyes, broke my heart! She wanted her mama.  BUT...daddy needs to be there for her too.  And thankfully, he was able to take the morning off.  He works in the mortgage industry and they have been SWAMPED and on mandatory OT.  I won't lie, the OT does pay for all my clothes and our vacations. :)  My hubby is one hell of a hard worker.  He goes out of is way to make sure we have all we need and some.  Thank GOD, we fought hard to make our marriage work.  I am one blessed wife and mommy!

Ok I so went off track there. :)

On Monday, Liv and I went to Old Navy.  Yes, I know, what the hell was I doing shopping, after all that I did on vacation.  Well I had a $30 off of $75 and a $20 rewards coupon, so I HAD to go!  As we began to check out, the guy helping us said, "I remember you two when you came in right before your vacation."  GUILTY, yes we were just there not too long ago!  But...we needed last minute stuff.  I swear I am not a shopaholic.  Well....maybe???? :)  I told him, "yes, we just got back and decided to do more."  I told him that Liv and I love to shop together for good deals.  At this moment, he said, "I love to shop, just not right now".  I assumed he meant because he was working in retail.  I was wrong.  He told me that he had recently gained 30 pounds and just wasn't happy with himself.  At this very moment, I just loved this guy!  The look on his face was one I had seen on my very own, many times.  He looked so defeated.  I told him I knew exactly how he felt.  I let him know that I used to be 115 pounds heavier.  He then told me that he too, had lost 130 pounds!! How freaking awesome is that!  I told him how amazing I thought that was.  He said, "yeah but I gained back 30".  Boy did I know how that felt!!  He said he had hit a plateau.  Boy do I know how that sucks.  I told him that I had recently lost some weight and over the course of 2 years, I had dropped 25 pounds.  This got a little spark back in his eyes.  It was like he instantly knew, we were meant to meet.  We started to discuss our journey's and the similarities.  He was an identical twin and when he was heavy, his brother was thin.  Boy could I relate to this.  Not that I have a twin, but I do have 2 beautiful sisters that have always been thin.  We talked about how hard it is growing up overweight and how people think you should just be able to get over it.  Ummm...it's not that easy folks!  It is just one of those things, that unless you have been through it, you cannot relate.  He talked about how he was a size 44 waste at his biggest.  He had gotten down to a 33 and when he did, people accused him of being anorexic.  Why is it when we lose weight and get "thin" people want to accuse us of being unhealthy?????  This has happened to me at work, in the past few months and to one of my girlfriends, that recently lost some weight.  So we can't win when we are fat and when we get "skinny" we are sick.  Ahhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I told this wonderful guy that today was going to be the start of his new journey.  I told him I believed in him and that he was going to get the weight off.  He got such a huge grin on his face and told me that gave him goose bumps.  He gabbed my hand to shake it and told me how nice it was to meet me.  I told Matt, I would be back to check in with him.  And I will!  I felt an instant connection.  Like he and I could be friends for life.  I gave him my blog address and told him about all of the amazing people on IG.  I let him know how inspiring and motivating you all are.  And it's true!  It's not like FB, where people are more into bragging than encouraging.  IG is all about the positive. As are all of your blogs.  It's a family to me.  I hope Matt is now one of the members....

I think that trip to Old Navy just made me believe even more in the whole. "everything happens for a reason".  I came across IG and all the amazing people for a reason, I started this blog and follow other blogs, for a reason.  AND...I went to Old Navy on Monday, for a reason...
To sum it up....don't forget that everyone has a story and a path they have been on.  Please look at people with an open mind.  I saw on IG where someone made a comment about people posting selfies where they say they have no make-up on when they really do. Here is what I think about that.  To the person posting the selfie, maybe they don't have on make-up.  Well the kind of make-up they are used to.  Maybe they are used to a full face of it and in the pic, they just have on mascara and some lip gloss.  I know to me, mascara and my eyebrows colored in, is no make-up to me...lol!  I don't feel like I am myself without lipstick.  Yep, I can be vain!! And when someone says, "ugh I feel so fat" and they are skinny.  Please don't assume they are doing that merely for attention.  That same person might have an eating disorder like bulimia, anorexia or body dysmorphic syndrome.  SO to them, they do look fat or feel fat.  I think as a society, we are ALL too quick to judge.  I know I work on this daily. I am trying so hard to remember, we all have things we are not happy with.  And please don't assume that when someone is posting a shit ton of selfies and #ootd pics, they are conceited.  I mean I post a lot of pics, but I do it to share with people, my cheap finds or in hopes that my sweaty post workout photo might inspire someone, to go workout.  And I am not going to lie, sometimes I actually look in the mirror and go, "hmmm....I look pretty good today". SO...why not post a pic.  It helps me remember, I DO have good days, when I feel good mentally and physically. 

Sorry that this post has been all over the place.  I hope to get back to my normal blogging routine next week.  I have so much blog reading to catch up on!  I have missed all of you!!!

Have a fantastic weekend!!

Lots of Love,
Lor

13 comments:

  1. That is so great that you got to meet that guy at Old Navy and share your stories! It almost made me tear up a little.

    It is sad that we are so quick to judge others without knowing their story. I've been guilty of it too! It is definitely something that I've been trying to work on so I have a positive comment to say about someone instead of a negative one.

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  2. Your like the super woman of fitness. Now come whip my butt into shape!!! Thanks for sharing that wonderful story and I hope Princess Liv is feeling better soon!

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  3. Welcome aboard, Matt. We wanna see your blog, buddy! =)

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  4. i love this! and it's true; there are so many out there struggling with something - weight, family issues, internal struggles - and everyone has their own story so don't judge anyone! i love that you and matt made a great connection :)

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  5. This made me freaking cry! I love you! Your such a sweetie and I just want to give you a big ol' hug! xoxo

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  6. I love love love this post! Youre a rockstar! ;)

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  7. I needed to read this today. I lost 80 pounds and have put on 15 of those pounds. Yes, I have been working out with weights and know that affects the scale. (I am 5'61/2" and as down to 125 now at about 140). But I do think I need to lose at least 5-10 pounds. I need to find my motivation again. Thank you for "talking" to me with this post.

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  8. I love this post. You are so right about us not knowing everyone's story or journey. We are so quick to judge one another and I do my best to NOT to do that, but i'm guilty of it. And I believe the blogging world is much more supportive than FB just because you have so MANY women/men in the same boat or have been in that boat. I am so glad I stumbled across this new community of people!! You all are so awesome!

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  9. Well said! The judging in our society is ridiculous and sad. :( I'm glad you met that guy. I'm sure you changed his life!

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  10. This is so great! You really were at the right place at the right time. Hopefully you inspired him!

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  11. Hi Lori! I just found your blog and I must admit, I am in love with you! I found myself nodding my head in agreement and literally saying "yes!" throughout this whole post! I, myself, have always struggled with my weight and self image and after losing 50 lbs, and working so hard to get there, I now have people accusing me of being anorexic. They don't know my story, and I wish they wouldn't be so quick to judge! That's why I decided to blog about my journey and I started this week! I hope I can inspire others, just as you have here! Keep up the great work! I am looking forward to following you!

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  12. THIS IS AWESOME!!!! God certainly has a way of putting people in the right place at the right time!

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  13. Lori you are sweet for reaching out to him and letting him have someone to talk to. You could have just ignored him and moved on with your day. That's what makes you so special, you care.

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